What do you guys think about Bukharians moving out from the family before getting married?:innoc08:

What do you guys think about Bukharians moving out from the family before getting married?:innoc08:

I moved out, there nothing wrong with it :innoc08:. For a girls its a different story. there always should be a reason of moving out, and everyone has its own...

most adults say about the people who move out have a bad reputation, don't get along with their family yada yada yada etc... :rolleye07

most adults say about the people who move out have a bad reputation, don't get along with their family yada yada yada etc... :rolleye07

These days boys & girls who do not move out, do whatever they want, u dont need to move out to do what u need to do....:mad34:

These days boys & girls who do not move out, do whatever they want, u dont need to move out to do what u need to do....:mad34:

yet people still do

yet people still do

If you care about everyone, vremeni na sebya ne budet.

If you care about everyone, vremeni na sebya ne budet.

LOL,
I'm just wondering what's everyone's thoughts and opinions are about this, thats all. :innoc08:

LOL,
I'm just wondering what's everyone's thoughts and opinions are about this, thats all. :innoc08:

Come on, just tell us u want to move out :D

Moving out before marriage says something about a person. Either they dont get along with their family or other reasons. When the person wants to get married, the guy or girl they will be involved with might understand why they wanted to move out, however, the parents are a different story, they won;t want to accept such a person. I guess the Bukharian mentality is that if you move out before marriage then something is wrong. I'm talking about the moving out to live on your own, but if you have to move because of schooling and then will return there is nothing wrong with that.

When people get older and parents begin to age, it becomes a energetic drain living with your parents. Also, the need for space becomes greater, and not everyone has plenty of space living with parents. When one becomes older, the need for self expression rises, which means that they NEED to live in an atmosphere that speaks of them, and that gives them a sense of individuality. I think eventually it becomes necessary, although for the girls, I would not advocate it. Simply becomes of the responsibility that comes with a female living alone.. It becomes an opportunistic situation for some guys to try and take advantage of a single girl who lives alone. I speak from experience on this (knowing a girl who has lived alone for the past 6 years).

Come on, just tell us u want to move out :D

If I wanted to, I would have moved out a looong time ago. :tongue12:

Even for schooling I'm begining to feel hesitant about moving out for the semester.
It's either that or a 45 minute drive in rush hour traffic back and forth everyday. At least I'll be back every week for shabbat with my family.
Life is definetly getting interesting.

Even for schooling I'm begining to feel hesitant about moving out for the semester.
It's either that or a 45 minute drive in rush hour traffic back and forth everyday. At least I'll be back every week for shabbat with my family.
Life is definetly getting interesting.

your parents are ok with it?
usually some parents are very strict about their children moving out and want to hold on to them til the very last minute they have. :innoc08:

your parents are ok with it?
usually some parents are very strict about their children moving out and want to hold on to them til the very last minute they have. :innoc08:

lol, my mom especially wants to hold on, but she trusts me, she knows I've got my head on straight and that this is something I've been wanting to do.

It's unlikely that I'll give up on it, I don't want to settle for the career opportunities offered at close-to home community colleges and look back and wonder what might have been... Bukharian community wise I doubt it's looked highly upon. Fully convincing my mom is still work in progress....the list goes on:)

maybe I should just give-in and get married?

your parents are ok with it?
usually some parents are very strict about their children moving out and want to hold on to them til the very last minute they have. :innoc08:


Oh so its better for their daughter to continue living with them and be ok with dating NON-JEWS correct? :happy65:

Your so FULL OF contradiction. You should really try thinking prior to expressing yourself.. Your views seem to conflict a lot.

maybe I should just give-in and get married?

isn't that what all bukharian parents want lol :jump20:

isn't that what all bukharian parents want lol :jump20:

yes lol straight to 'khoni sho' hehe

maybe I should just give-in and get married?


Perfect idea :D. When can we expect you? :)

Oh so its better for their daughter to continue living with them and be ok with dating NON-JEWS correct? :happy65:

Your so FULL OF contradiction. You should really try thinking prior to expressing yourself.. Your views seem to conflict a lot.

for your info Executive, my parents don't have a rule with me. I have a free choice whether I move out or not. Date non-jewish or not. They just want me to be happy with whatever decision I chose and as long as I don't regret in the future. They know me too well; they know that eventually I'll still marry a bukharian guy. :tongue12:

for your info Executive, my parents don't have a rule with me. I have a free choice whether I move out or not. Date non-jewish or not. They just want me to be happy with whatever decision I chose and as long as I don't regret in the future. They know me too well; they know that eventually I'll still marry a bukharian guy. :tongue12:


The question is, will a Bukharian guy marry you! :D

We tend to dislike non-jewish mileage on our women..:smoke:

The question is, will a Bukharian guy marry you! :D

We tend to dislike non-jewish mileage on our women..:smoke:

Will a Bukharian girl MARRY YOU? :tongue12:

Don't include others in ur thoughts:party39:

Will a Bukharian girl MARRY YOU? :tongue12:

Don't include others in ur thoughts:party39:

Should I make a poll about this :D. Go ahead MAKE MY DAY!!!! :happy65:

You will surely lose.. :smoke:

Guys don't want girls who were devirginized, ESPECIALLY BY A NON JEW!!

Should I make a poll about this :D. Go ahead MAKE MY DAY!!!! :happy65:

You will surely lose.. :smoke:

Guys don't want girls who were devirginized, ESPECIALLY BY A NON JEW!!

:mad25:

there's nothing wrong with girls dating non-jew as long as they don't marry them and/or sleep with them. :mad25:

:mad25:

there's nothing wrong with girls dating non-jew as long as they don't marry them and/or sleep with them. :mad25:

Well what else would you do with them? Play patty-cake?? :sign69:

3rd base is as good as sex by the way.

Well what else would you do with them? Play patty-cake?? :sign69:

3rd base is as good as sex by the way.


:fight25:

you just don't know non-jews that well. Not everyone is into only sleeping with girls.
as a matter of fact, There are so many rumors about Bukharian guys who are not married over the age the age of 26 that they have slept with girls :tongue12:

:fight25:

you just don't know non-jews that well. Not everyone is into only sleeping with girls.
as a matter of fact, There are so many rumors about Bukharian guys who are not married over the age the age of 26 that they have slept with girls :tongue12:


I am not saying that THATS ALL THEY WANT. But usually with non-jews, sex comes with the territory. Part of the dating package. I am not talking dating during 14-16 ages, I am talking about mature adults... The only time I heard of a bukharian female friend of mine dating a non Jew and NOT having sex was up until he demanded it and she said NO! That was the reason for the breakup.. So why even waste time? Cheap thrill? Why is a Jewish guy less qualified?

Us guys had reasons why we dated non Jews. I for one wanted sex and got it from devirginized non jews rather than use and abuse some sweet Bukharian virgin.

What do you guys think about Bukharians moving out from the family before getting married?:innoc08:

I don't see anything wrong with a bukharian guy moving out from his parents' house. In fact, I bought myself an apartment and moved out prior to getting married. I lived alone for a couple of years like this.

This is almost like a must for a guy...helps to shape a character...(he gets to learn how to service himself financially, cooking, cleaning, ironing). Otherwise those that move directly from the mom's service to the wife's service never get to see the life in all its colors. They could stay big babies forever.

I am not saying that THATS ALL THEY WANT. But usually with non-jews, sex comes with the territory. Part of the dating package. I am not talking dating during 14-16 ages, I am talking about mature adults... The only time I heard of a bukharian female friend of mine dating a non Jew and NOT having sex was up until he demanded it and she said NO! That was the reason for the breakup.. So why even waste time? Cheap thrill? Why is a Jewish guy less qualified?

Us guys had reasons why we dated non Jews. I for one wanted sex and got it from devirginized non jews rather than use and abuse some sweet Bukharian virgin.

:mad25: I don't know about other Bukharian girls (especially in NY) (NOW GIRLS DON'T GET MAD AT ME I'M NOT SAYING ALL GIRLS), but just because I date non-jews it doesn't mean that I date them to sleep with them and don't intend do, I stick with the good rule "sex after marriage".

:mad25: I don't know about other Bukharian girls (especially in NY) (NOW GIRLS DON'T GET MAD AT ME I'M NOT SAYING ALL GIRLS), but just because I date non-jews it doesn't mean that I date them to sleep with them and don't intend do, I stick with the good rule "sex after marriage".

Talk is cheap.. In that case there is no need to date non jews. What makes them more flavorful? The uncircumsized penis perhaps? :D

Talk is cheap.. In that case there is no need to date non jews. What makes them more flavorful? The uncircumsized penis perhaps? :D

:fight55: there's no point of arguing with you on ANY SUBJECT

:fight55: there's no point of arguing with you on ANY SUBJECT

And you just realized this? :D

And you just realized this? :D

:mad25: there's no point of arguing with u cuz u always want and have everything your way. :jump20:

:mad25: there's no point of arguing with u cuz u always want and have everything your way. :jump20:

It just happens to work out that way most of the time.. What can I say, most girls that I have encountered lack the ability to overwhelm me with their wisdom, knowledge and intelligence, including you :). I can count on my fingers the number of girls that have the ability to overpower me verbally and intellectually.. :wisdom:

It just happens to work out that way most of the time.. What can I say, most girls that I have encountered lack the ability to overwhelm me with their wisdom, knowledge and intelligence, including you :). I can count on my fingers the number of girls that have the ability to overpower me verbally and intellectually.. :wisdom:

or just say that you think that you're better than everyone at everything :D :happy08:

or just say that you think that you're better than everyone at everything :D :happy08:


not everyone, and certainly not everything

or just say that you think that you're better than everyone at everything :D :happy08:

Yea that too :D

not everyone, and certainly not everything

well thats the way he acts like :innoc08:

well thats the way he acts like :innoc08:


that he just does

well thats the way he acts like :innoc08:
Sweety ignore him. He picks on everyone, eventually he will shutup. All it takes is time, hang in there, we are all here for u.

Sweety ignore him. He picks on everyone, eventually he will shutup. All it takes is time, hang in there, we are all here for u.

:iprayu: :iprayu: Thank you Golden

not everyone, and certainly not everything


Good old Val is one of the "RARE EXCEPTIONS" I mentioned above ;).

Sweety ignore him. He picks on everyone, eventually he will shutup. All it takes is time, hang in there, we are all here for u.


The brain transplant candidate speaks again.. :D

The brain transplant candidate speaks again.. :D
you got a problem with that

If you care about everyone, vremeni na sebya ne budet.

why so paraoid, And why do you feel so compelled to deffend ? No one is pointing any fingers at you.



and my thoughts regarding this thread question.
Well, I think, if you can emotionally and financially then go for it. And if you're simplly interested in knowing what our Bukharian community thinks about it. I think Bukharian culture is not ready for that step yet. So, obviously when it come to this topic, Bukharian people tend to be very judgmental and sensitive about this situation. But it's still happening, people are getting older and staying single late into their late 20's and 30's. I think it's understandable, So now if that person is single, does that mean he/she has to spend the rest of his/her life living with his/her parents? And to be treated like a child by your parents all your life? Or until you get married, and it might be when you're 35 or 40. I think this is ridiculous. I mean it's ok to stay with your parents if you're comfortable with it and if everything is great, but if not, then why torture yourself.