What attracts a girl in a guy more?

What attarcts a girl to a guy more?

A gde inteligence? I think brains are the biggest turn on for me!!!! But then again...I'm a geek!!!!! ;)

A gde inteligence? I think brains are the biggest turn on for me!!!! But then again...I'm a geek!!!!! ;)


I agree, intelligence and Depth should be up there.

I agree, intelligence and Depth should be up there.
Yes, that is right. The deeper you are the better a sensation.

For me, confidence is definately it...not to be confused with arrogance

For me, confidence is definately it...not to be confused with arrogance

Confidence in a guy is great, however, in a girl too much can be problematic.. I prefer optimism instead.. (in my opinion over-confidence is synonimous with arrogance).

The poll is meant to identify guys' characteristics that attract girls.

Intelligence is important than anything you have listed, I think. A person can be funny/look great/have an attitude/be confident but be dumb; he could have money but no intelligence.

Confidence in a guy is great, however, in a girl too much can be problematic.. I prefer optimism instead.. (in my opinion over-confidence is synonimous with arrogance).
Yes, too much confidence has a linkage with haughtiness or too much false pride. If a guy is confident in the life he leads, then that means there is some reason involved. Face it, no one is dumb, your definition of intelligence can be mildy well-educated to another. Everyone is smart in their own way. Yeslee parin slishkom nachitaniy, kaneshna etat balshoy plus, nho eta ne samaya glavnaya. Confidence is a base for everything the guy does.

Intelligence is important than anything you have listed, I think. A person can be funny/look great/have an attitude/be confident but be dumb; he could have money but no intelligence.

That's close to being impossible. How can a guy have money and not be intelligent. Most money, especially nowadays, is not inherited or passed down, it is earned. If a guy works for his income, then he must be intelligent
in surviving in life, if not being exceptionally successful.

I disagree with you. There are some guys that have money, earning it (and not a dollar here and there, making money as you state it) but have no intelligence. I didn't say everyone that makes money is dumb. Talking from a personal experience, and not just one.

Also, confidence ...eto ponyatie rastezhimoe.

I disagree with you. There are some guys that have money, earning it (and not a dollar here and there, making money as you state it) but have no intelligence. I didn't say everyone that makes money is dumb. Talking from a personal experience, and not just one.

Also, confidence ...eto ponyatie rastezhimoe.


ScorpioGrl I fully agree with you. There are plenty of Neanderthal types out there that "earn" plenty and have IQ's of my shoe size... Not everyone possesses intelligence. Some are closer to the animal kingdom than others :).

Could it be the law of physics?

Power = Work / Time (The power is defined as the work done per unit time)
Knowledge = Power (As defined and advertised in most of educational books)
Time = Money (As defined in our fast paced culture)

So, Knowledge = Work / Money (After a simple substitution)

This says that doing the same work, more intelligent people would make less money or, vice versa, a lot of money is earned by less intelligent people (Intelligence is inversely proportional to Money) :)

Could it be the law of physics?

Power = Work / Time (The power is defined as the work done per unit time)
Knowledge = Power (As defined and advertised in most of educational books)
Time = Money (As defined in our fast paced culture)

So, Knowledge = Work / Money (After a simple substitution)

This says that doing the same work, more intelligent people would make less money or, vice versa, a lot of money is earned by less intelligent people (Intelligence is inversely proportional to Money) :)

This brings back some fond memories....and I thought I'd never use physics!!!!

a blend of Intelligence and a good sense of humor
intlligence by itself is useless without practical use of it, but it attracts women for sure

WisePrince when you ask your question you mean to ask what is the initial attraction? Because at first sight one cannot know if the guy is intelligent or rich. All a girl sees is what he looks like and how he carries himself. If they have a conversation she learns more from that encounter, however, all the things mentioned in your poll require time to get to know the guy.

How I first met my hubby:
I saw his profile first, standing only a few feet away from me. He was tall (you should add height to your poll, although I guess it could be considered "looks") and he carried himself well. He walked and looked like he owned the room, and I don't mean in an arrogant way, just someone who is confident of himself. He was very well dressed. So the first things I knew about him was that he was tall, extremely good looking, dressed well, and had great taste...(he picked me :party39: ) I later learned that the guy also happens to be a genius and has a great sense of humor. Basically, he has it all....hehehe....and I have him.

Intelligence is important than anything you have listed, I think. A person can be funny/look great/have an attitude/be confident but be dumb; he could have money but no intelligence.

Dry intelligence without sence of humor = geek
Dry intelligence without looks = quasimodo
Dry intelligence without money = thinking too much of things that dont matter
Dry intelligence without confidence = mamsik

I am sorry but I dont feel that intelligence is the number one priority for a guy...especially, not what a guy looks at in a girl

Historically, a girl would go for a confident guy more readily than after the intelligent one...just stop and think of the Neanderthals and other prehistoric men...those men that had the nerve to challenge other or simply grab the woman ultimatelly had her.

Dry intelligence without sence of humor = geek
Dry intelligence without looks = quasimodo
Dry intelligence without money = thinking too much of things that dont matter
Dry intelligence without confidence = mamsik

I am sorry but I dont feel that intelligence is the number one priority for a guy...especially, not what a guy looks at in a girl

Historically, a girl would go for a confident guy more readily than after the intelligent one...just stop and think of the Neanderthals and other prehistoric men...those men that had the nerve to challenge other or simply grab the woman ultimatelly had her.


Thank You!

How I first met my hubby:
I saw his profile first, standing only a few feet away from me. He was tall (you should add height to your poll, although I guess it could be considered "looks") and he carried himself well. He walked and looked like he owned the room, and I don't mean in an arrogant way, just someone who is confident of himself. He was very well dressed. So the first things I knew about him was that he was tall, extremely good looking, dressed well, and had great taste...(he picked me :party39: ) I later learned that the guy also happens to be a genius and has a great sense of humor. Basically, he has it all....hehehe....and I have him.


I hope other girls won't follow this example. A bit shallow of a way to qualify a guy.. But then again, I see your a Taurus, just like me. Our negative side I would say is obsessing about physical traits in the opposite sex as well as desiring to obtain and possess the best possible... But I'm glad you found your match :).

I hope other girls won't follow this example. A bit shallow of a way to qualify a guy.. But then again, I see your a Taurus, just like me. Our negative side I would say is obsessing about physical traits in the opposite sex as well as desiring to obtain and possess the best possible... But I'm glad you found your match :).

I resent you calling me shallow. I stated a mere fact. All people see when they first meet another person are physical traits. If the physical attracts them they develop this attraction into a relationship. I did not say I married my hubby because he is better looking than most guys. But it was what I thought when I first met him. As I got to know him I learned that he has far more important and appealing character traits.

I resent you calling me shallow. I stated a mere fact. All people see when they first meet another person are physical traits. If the physical attracts them they develop this attraction into a relationship. I did not say I married my hubby because he is better looking than most guys. But it was what I thought when I first met him. As I got to know him I learned that he has far more important and appealing character traits.

Allow me to rephrase myself. Most mature people tend to seek deeper traits such as intelligence, kindness, charm etc. In addition ofcourse it is important for the person to be physically pleasing to the other party as well.

Its another story completely in obsessive types who stare at individual body parts, analyzing them in detail. Having obsessive physical requirements such as: Height, teeth quality, chest size, rear end shape, thickness of hair, etc.. I consider people like this to be shallow, because they place tiny physical qualities above the more pertinent personality characteristics that outlast the physical.. Time goes by, everyone ages and eventually all that is left is the person within an old and withered body.. :)

Allow me to rephrase myself. Most mature people tend to seek deeper traits such as intelligence, kindness, charm etc. In addition ofcourse it is important for the person to be physically pleasing to the other party as well.

Its another story completely in obsessive types who stare at individual body parts, analyzing them in detail. Having obsessive physical requirements such as: Height, teeth quality, chest size, rear end shape, thickness of hair, etc.. I consider people like this to be shallow, because they place tiny physical qualities above the more pertinent personality characteristics that outlast the physical.. Time goes by, everyone ages and eventually all that is left is the person within an old and withered body.. :)

First shallow, now immature. Let me reiterate. I did not get married for looks. I said that physical attraction is the first thing one sees in another person at first. One cannot know about the other's personality, sense of humor, charm, intelligence, etc. until one takes the time to learn those things. Why is it so hard for you to admit that you also only see the physical when you first meet a girl/lady/woman - be it for business or personal reasons. And after you get to know the person a little you can decide if she is an intelligent, interesting, charming person. You can decide only after getting to know her if you want to continue your friendship/relationship with her. Nobody has psychic powers today. You cannot know what a person is really like until you get to know him or her and that takes time. What you see at first is the physical appearance. And when it comes to dating ideally one dates the person he/she is attracted to.

How I first met my hubby:
I saw his profile first, standing only a few feet away from me. He was tall (you should add height to your poll, although I guess it could be considered "looks") and he carried himself well. He walked and looked like he owned the room, and I don't mean in an arrogant way, just someone who is confident of himself. He was very well dressed. So the first things I knew about him was that he was tall, extremely good looking, dressed well, and had great taste...(he picked me :party39: ) I later learned that the guy also happens to be a genius and has a great sense of humor. Basically, he has it all....hehehe....and I have him.

Shall we analyze your above quote? You specifically stated that he was TALL and that we should even add the option of HEIGHT to the poll. Not to say people shouldn't have acceptable height ranges that they seek in the opposite sex. I understand that everyone wants a partner they will look acceptable with in public, and proportionate in size to them, however it looks as though in your case and many others, excessive height is an obsessive FETISH that you simply saught to fulfill.

In all honesty, you phrased yourself as if you were starved for a good looking guy and came off as if you own a trophy. As far as the more important features that you realized about him later, you made them seem very secondary and good extra's. Also, some modesty would be a good characteristic to for you to develop my dear. That will come in handy to avoid that nasty Ayin Horah..

Shall we analyze your above quote? You specifically stated that he was TALL and that we should even add the option of HEIGHT to the poll. Not to say people shouldn't have acceptable height ranges that they seek in the opposite sex. I understand that everyone wants a partner they will look acceptable with in public, and proportionate in size to them, however it looks as though in your case and many others, excessive height is an obsessive FETISH that you simply saught to fulfill.

In all honesty, you phrased yourself as if you were starved for a good looking guy and came off as if you own a trophy. As far as the more important features that you realized about him later, you made them seem very secondary and good extra's. Also, some modesty would be a good characteristic to for you to develop my dear. That will come in handy to avoid that nasty Ayin Horah..

Well, if I come across as immature and shallow then I'd have to say you come accross as one who does not have a sense of humor. I stated the physical traits in him I noticed when I first met him. I found them appealing and that is why it developed into a relsationship. I did not want people to think that I married him for his looks and that is why I added that I found every thing else in him, as well. They were not extras, they were essentials.
My modesty is not for you to judge. I happen to be proud of the guy I married.

Allow me to rephrase myself. Most mature people tend to seek deeper traits such as intelligence, kindness, charm etc. In addition ofcourse it is important for the person to be physically pleasing to the other party as well.

Its another story completely in obsessive types who stare at individual body parts, analyzing them in detail. Having obsessive physical requirements such as: Height, teeth quality, chest size, rear end shape, thickness of hair, etc.. I consider people like this to be shallow, because they place tiny physical qualities above the more pertinent personality characteristics that outlast the physical.. Time goes by, everyone ages and eventually all that is left is the person within an old and withered body.. :)

I have a feeling you will not please the "shallow". Are you trying to say you will not qualify for the Bukharian Mr.Universe? I mean the looks part?

I have a feeling you will not please the "shallow". Are you trying to say you will not qualify for the Bukharian Mr.Universe? I mean the looks part?


Actually that can't be farther from the truth :). But I'll remain humble and modest and not get into details about myself.

I simply stand up for the under-dog in such cases. I am sure even the best looking individuals at some point in their lives were judged or rejected based on some ridiculously insignificant (to most people) physical trait or feature..

Well, if I come across as immature and shallow then I'd have to say you come accross as one who does not have a sense of humor. I stated the physical traits in him I noticed when I first met him. I found them appealing and that is why it developed into a relsationship. I did not want people to think that I married him for his looks and that is why I added that I found every thing else in him, as well. They were not extras, they were essentials.
My modesty is not for you to judge. I happen to be proud of the guy I married.


Aren't we a tad deffensive? :D. It's ok hun lets swallow it, relax and move on shall we?.. No hard feelings ;)

Actually that can't be farther from the truth :). But I'll remain humble and modest and not get into details about myself.

I simply stand up for the under-dog in such cases. I am sure even the best looking individuals at some point in their lives were judged or rejected based on some ridiculously insignificant (to most people) physical trait or feature..
Pictures speak louder then words.........:party39:

That's close to being impossible. How can a guy have money and not be intelligent. Most money, especially nowadays, is not inherited or passed down, it is earned. If a guy works for his income, then he must be intelligent
in surviving in life, if not being exceptionally successful.

in this case you have to define the word and ask her to do the same, and then you should compare if your definitions are the same.

Dry intelligence without sence of humor = geek
Dry intelligence without looks = quasimodo
Dry intelligence without money = thinking too much of things that dont matter
Dry intelligence without confidence = mamsik

I am sorry but I dont feel that intelligence is the number one priority for a guy...especially, not what a guy looks at in a girl

Historically, a girl would go for a confident guy more readily than after the intelligent one...just stop and think of the Neanderthals and other prehistoric men...those men that had the nerve to challenge other or simply grab the woman ultimatelly had her.


now you're talking. You see married men know their stuff.

Natasha, good job, tebe plus za vospitanie. :party29:

Allow me to rephrase myself. Most mature people tend to seek deeper traits such as intelligence, kindness, charm etc. In addition ofcourse it is important for the person to be physically pleasing to the other party as well.

Its another story completely in obsessive types who stare at individual body parts, analyzing them in detail. Having obsessive physical requirements such as: Height, teeth quality, chest size, rear end shape, thickness of hair, etc.. I consider people like this to be shallow, because they place tiny physical qualities above the more pertinent personality characteristics that outlast the physical.. Time goes by, everyone ages and eventually all that is left is the person within an old and withered body.. :)

read carefully and dont respond right away. Take time to digest it. and also be honest at least with yourself.

Imagine that you see two people, one is all that you consider physcially hot, and the other one is the ungliest creature you ever seen.

qts#1- who do you approach?

same situation only here, even though they look very different, they have exact same personalities. And imagine that its the type of personality that you consider to be your perfect for you.

qts #2-who do you approach?

Tsippa and Natasha do you remember what Mr. Executive said in the Miss Bukhairan Universe thread? If not then let me refresh your memory.
He said:
"Beautiful and smart young ladies inspire me .
We can gather candidates from over-seas, whether from Israel, Austria, Germany etc. The finalists will have to be chosen based on several criteria, not only aesthetic beauty. and obviously the winner would be a physically appealing, educated, well rounded and well spoken female. (I know thats a hell of a challenge, but hey we can try ) . "

Executive yezik tvoi vrag tvoi..............tststs.

read carefully and dont respond right away. Take time to digest it. and also be honest at least with yourself.

Imagine that you see two people, one is all that you consider physcially hot, and the other one is the ungliest creature you ever seen.

qts#1- who do you approach?

same situation only here, even though they look very different, they have exact same personalities. And imagine that its the type of personality that you consider to be your perfect for you.

qts #2-who do you approach?

Why are you comparing cherries to watermelons? Your going way out ito left field with this irrelevant example.. I suggest you stick closer to the issue at hand darling.. ;)

I'm not saying to give every quasimoto hunchback a chance cause of their innate genius. I am simply saying to GROW UP and lose the neurotic obsession with meeting a guy who looks like Barby Doll's Ken.

Tsippa and Natasha do you remember what Mr. Executive said in the Miss Bukhairan Universe thread? If not then let me refresh your memory.
He said:
"Beautiful and smart young ladies inspire me .
We can gather candidates from over-seas, whether from Israel, Austria, Germany etc. The finalists will have to be chosen based on several criteria, not only aesthetic beauty. and obviously the winner would be a physically appealing, educated, well rounded and well spoken female. (I know thats a hell of a challenge, but hey we can try ) . "

Executive yezik tvoi vrag tvoi..............tststs.


Key word is "INSPIRE".. So whats wrong with that? Its a proven statistical finding that most men are inspired and driven when seeing beautiful women. Similar to a natural anti-depressant. Did I say that "I hope that my Bride will look like a Barby doll"?

Marriage is a union that should be based on more valuable qualities, after all it is meant to last for the rest of the couples lives.

Why are you comparing cherries to watermelons? Your going way out ito left field with this irrelevant example.. I suggest you stick closer to the issue at hand darling.. ;)

I'm not saying to give every quasimoto hunchback a chance cause of their innate genius. I am simply saying to GROW UP and lose the neurotic obsession with meeting a guy who looks like Barby Doll's Ken.

that was the idea, to make it so obvious, because you dont seem to get it. And btw the type of guys that i am attracted to look nothing like Barby Doll's Ken

Aren't we a tad deffensive? :D. It's ok hun lets swallow it, relax and move on shall we?.. No hard feelings ;)

That's because you are offensive. And don't "hun" me.

That's because you are offensive. And don't "hun" me.


Ok enough, I won't traumatize you anymore. ;)