It was just noted that a girl is shallow when she chooses a guy based on a physical appearance. What is your stance on this? Is a girl justified in rejecting a guy based on this attribute? As it is well know that ‘attraction isn’t a choice’, what other attributes must be considered to make up that initial attraction?

It was just noted that a girl is shallow when she chooses a guy based on a physical appearance. What is your stance on this? Is a girl justified in rejecting a guy based on this attribute? As it is well know that ‘attraction isn’t a choice’, what other attributes must be considered to make up that initial attraction?

I think someone here said this already, but I'll repeat anyways. The first impression is always based on the physical appearance. This is the only attribute she can go by when making the first impression. However, I believe that this is not the only criteria for "keeping" a guy. Over time, as both of them get to know each other, she starts noticing his other attributes, a special bond develops. This bond, I think is stronger than physical apperance on its own. This is what makes her "keep" a guy.

Chooses? Or feels [initial] attraction? Dve bol'shiye raznitzy. :)

It was just noted that a girl is shallow when she chooses a guy based on a physical appearance. What is your stance on this? Is a girl justified in rejecting a guy based on this attribute? As it is well know that ‘attraction isn’t a choice’, what other attributes must be considered to make up that initial attraction?

It was just noted that a girl is shallow when she chooses a guy based on a physical appearance. What is your stance on this? Is a girl justified in rejecting a guy based on this attribute? As it is well know that ‘attraction isn’t a choice’, what other attributes must be considered to make up that initial attraction?


ahem, I would ask you please, not to make such divisions and say, "Is a GIRL....?" Because the FACT is guys are just as shallow as girls are, if we will use such words as "shallow". I would also like to point out that, in many societies, there are more beautiful women who are married to /or dating ugly guys than vice versa. Usually, guys tend to get girls who are supposedly better looking than the guy. So, do me a favor and refrain from using such words as "girls" or just "guys." Toda raba..

It was just noted that a girl is shallow when she chooses a guy based on a physical appearance. What is your stance on this? Is a girl justified in rejecting a guy based on this attribute? As it is well know that ‘attraction isn’t a choice’, what other attributes must be considered to make up that initial attraction?

Very pertinent topic that really needs to be addressed, especially in our community these days. I must say though, there are different types of girls, some that have more physically based standards for mates than others.

Some get turned on only by intelligence, charm, sense of humor, wisdom. And others who only seek a cute face or hot body, and have zero requirements for brains.

Then there is the category I call the IDEALISTS, those that truly believe that an all-in-wonder combo exists and not only that, but that they can actually seek out, attract, and maintain such a person.

I personally have learned from years of experience, and years of shallowness that in the search for a life-time partner, there are many more qualities that have priority over ideal looks/physique. At the very least physically I seek a pleasing individual, with hope that other factors within them will make them more appealing. I have experienced individuals that have that charisma.

The problem is that most of our Bukharian girls are starved untl its time to begin dating, and those with predisposed genetics, develope this "hungry eye" syndrome. Some eventually turn into the above mentioned idealists, while another percentage marries based on superficial reasons only to get divorced shortly after.